Broken friendships are often about how you can’t help but care for someone who can’t do what you want.
Friends who don’t care for you are likely to leave, and they’re probably right to do so.
They may not know why, but the truth is, there’s a reason.
You don’t know what to do, so you keep asking your friends for advice.
That advice comes from a lot of people.
The thing is, the people you’re asking don’t really know how to help you.
It may seem obvious, but a lot people are trying to help with some level of comfort.
And they may not understand why.
Maybe they think you’re weird.
Maybe you think they’re the only people who understand you.
You’re not the only one.
Sometimes, the best advice you can give your friend isn’t that helpful at all.
In fact, it’s actually dangerous.
People who care about you have a responsibility to listen, listen to your pain and listen to what you’re going through.
So, how do you know when you need to talk?
Ask yourself: “How can I help my friend with their feelings?”
Ask your friends to listen.
Don’t be afraid to say, “I can’t tell you because I don’t think you need me.”
And if you feel alone, ask your friends what they want from you.
And if you want something from them, say, I want to give you a hug.
Remember, you’re not alone.
There’s lots of people who care for your feelings and want to help.
What if you’re sick?
If you feel sick, your friend may not be able to help, or it may take a while to figure out why.
But you’re safe.
When you feel sad, don’t panic.
The fact that you’re sad doesn’t mean your friend won’t listen.
You have friends.
Ask if they’re feeling okay.
Sometimes, a friend will respond by telling you that they’re fine.
Your friend may tell you they don’t want to talk to you, but that’s OK.
If your friend doesn’t care about what you need, you can always go on your own to find out.
There’s always a way to go.
Some people find it helpful to listen to their friends, and others don’t.
They don’t have to.
They can make friends and have a life together, without needing you to be there.
This article was originally published on CBCNews.ca.